[EM] don't call people something that they ask not to be called

[James Green-Armytage]

Mike, 
	This is insulting. You have no right to rename me, for the purpose of
this list or for any other purpose. I don't know if you realize how
insulting that is, but it is insulting. My last name is Green-Armytage.
You cannot abbreviate Green-Armytage with an A. Even if you could, since I
have requested that you not do it, you should not do it. It's really not
so complicated. I can't believe that it is so difficult for you to type
out a single extra letter on your keyboard (i.e. G-A rather than A.) in
order to avoid insulting me. Would you like it if I decided that you
should be called Mike S. instead of Mike O.? No, you wouldn't, and anyway
it would be stupid of me.
	Doing this the first time is no big deal. However, when I request that
you not call me that, and you insist that I have no right to make such a
request, you seem to be openly indicating that you have no respect for me.
	Please apologize.

James Green-Armytage


>	And oh, Mike, my name is James Green-Armytage. "Green" isn't my middle
>name, but is rather a part of my surname. Hence "James A." is not an
>appropriate abbreviation for my name.
>I repliy:
>Sure it is. The purpose of an abbreviation is to briefly identify. "James 
>A." does that just fine.
>You continued:
>If you feel the need to abbreviate
>it,...
>I reply:
>It's either that or write out the entire name every time I refer to you
>or 
>speak to you.
>You continued:
>...I suggest "James G-A". There's nothing at all wrong with the name
>"James Armytage", except for the fact that it's not my name.
>I reply:
>James G.A. isn't your name either. An abbreviation for your name is 
>something that isn't your name, but is briefer.
>The trouble with James G.A. is that we already have a James G. "James
>G.A." 
>unnecessarily resembles "James G."
>The only part of your initials that distinguishes you from James Gilmour
>is 
>the Armytage part. Hence there's no reason to represent any other part in 
>the abbreviation, whose purpose is just to identify you, not to
>accurately 
>name you.
>